Love & Marriage

I'm at a point in my life where people will ask
"When are you getting married?"
 "I wonder who's next to be getting married...Maybe YOU are!"

As if succumbing to their pressure would make me (or anyone else for that matter) get married or want to get married.  I prefer to enjoy the ride...At least for the time being.
I've known many woman in their late 20s, early 30s who have been with their significant other for certain amount of time when they're like "We've been dating for ___ years.  We must get married", hinting all the while that culture, their clock, and family and/or friends have pressured them so.

The way I see it, at the end of the day it's nobody's business but yours and your significant other.  Or in my case and my significant other.  My darling's friends all are married and/or have children.  He wants to follow suit as he has felt that he is nearly the only singleton.

My friends (only a few years younger than his friends), are just getting married.
I don't see the rush in getting married.  I can understand why people want to.  However I know that with me, if I am living with my significant other that's fine by me (with of course a reasonable time between dating and moving in).

Have I envisioned having a wedding?  Of course.  But I will not let my wedding day (or night) be a ongoing factor as a marriage.  They are two entirely different, however similar things.  Part of me would like the 'show' of a wedding....The other part not so much.  Never mind the finances behind a wedding day in and of itself.  No need to mention the whole "bridezilla" part of it either.

I know that if and when I choose to get married.  I want to be not only financially prepared but emotionally etc.  I do not want to rush to have kids either.  I don't see the need.  I would rather live a life of stability before a new 'change' in life occurs, esp when kids are involved.  Kids are a huge responsibility. I would like to enjoy my 'newlywed' time before kids come up in the picture.

As for the pressure of getting married.  I never see anything 'good' come out of it.  Resentment occurs when a significant other presses to get married.  I also believe if pressure to get married from family and friends is not a good reason to get married nor is it a justified reason.

Marriage is about love, and commitment and so are relationships.  In today's society, people will have children without marriage.  I don't look down upon it, however it is not the path I do not want to lead.  I guess what I'm saying here is it's hard work.  Kids or no kids...Tho' I believe that with kids...There are more ties that bind.  Am I saying that's not an excuse to get married?  No.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'd like to have all my ducks in a row before I get married.

And at the end of the day, my relationship is nobody's business but his and mine.  It's our life.