When wishing you well gets misconstrued

"Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions.  You may have a heart of gold -- but so does a hard-boiled egg."

'Tis the season for the appreciation of love, life, family and friends.

Awhile back I had wished an old ex's father a gift....I had intended it all along to be anonymous.  However customer service did not understand this term 'anonymous' and sent this ex's father all my contact info.  Which is what I did not want.  

All I wanted to do was wish his family all the best possible in many years to come. 

Well, evidently his dad and my ex got the wrong message.  

The ex had sent me an email...A friendly and a flirtatious email.  When I replied the general response back of "Wish you all the best!"...I received another friendly and flirtatious email as well as a 'hint' about being in town around a particular date, as well as a face book friend request.

So that was my cue to say "I have a boyfriend and we live together".

Due to the way we broke up, I figured what the hell, and I had asked him some unanswered questions that I had.  He chose to get defensive.  He couldn't even simply say "I"m sorry for the way things ended".  In fact he didn't apologize at all.  He once again, had showed his true colors. Which was deny, deny, deny...Even if the facts are in front of him.  He had no apologies for his actions.  No sincerity.

He claimed he wanted to re-establish a friendship.  Frankly, I did too.  

Instead he reminded me of how grateful I am of the family and friends I have and what I have in life.  How my boyfriend is so much better than the ex (after all, an ex is an ex for a reason right?).  

And as for the questions he answered but didn't answer?  It's ok because at the end of the day, I felt better letting him know how I felt.  If he thinks he's god's gift to man so be it.  

At least I know better.
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"Look, Jesse, it's like when we--when we fall in love, we take a chance that we 

might get hurt. But we choose to do it anyway. And it's just like with you and 

Lenny. When he switched watch with you,he knew that he was taking a risk.  Then he took your  place and you're still here. He gave you a second chance. Why 

would you want to throw that away?"  Marissa in "Nothing Like the Holidays"