He once lived with a woman. Who cared for him.
The fact of the matter is they pretty much skipped the dating phase. Entirely. He figured she would pay for their first ‘date’. He brought his mother out on dates with them. He then moved in with her.
However he wanted a woman that would pay all the bills, do everything around the house and have anal sex with him…. While he would continually talk about their issues to his friends and family without telling her directly. When they did talk about things directly…He would keep it all pent up.
She didn’t love him like he wanted to be loved. He had a problem with that while never having to tell her what his issues and problems were. He never disagreed. He kept his opinions and thoughts only to himself and his friends and family while keeping her in the dark.
At the time she was distressing from a job that emotionally tolled on her…To which he had no understanding of. He figured it was all her fault.
When she was unemployed and looked for a job he had an issue with her not working…When he had been of f the job for 2 years…Never mind the schooling he had for pharmacy school… In which he failed to take the tests because he wasn’t ‘ready’ and instead took up a job in cabbing in the suburbs.
He cheated on her.
When he wasn’t helping out with the stress that she was having…He made things more stressful. She had told him that she needed a few days off.
He then posted their dirty laundry on facebook and tried to make it out like she was the bad guy and that he was ‘homeless’. When he wasn’t. He had his support group.
When she ended things…He had the gall threaten the sheriff to get his stuff from her house. Never mind that the mortgage and all was under her name. It was all hers. He then had more gall to insult her in front of her parents as he was moving his stuff out, while at the same time expected her parents to help him move out. He also had the intellect to ask if he could move his things out in two days instead of one. After all that he threatened and did to her.
In fact, he thought that she would want ‘closure’ when in fact she did not. I mean…Who would after his cold attack? Why would anyone? He had called the ex before her crazy so it would be no surprise that he would call her crazy as well.
All that she could gather from this guy was that he was cold, cruel, immature, low self esteemed, codependent (as he had lived with his mom the majority of his life)….He felt entitled to everything and everyone. He cared for only what other people thought and what he thought. All came before his significant other.
Now don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t perfect either. But she was willing to talk things out had she been given her time and space. But the damage he had created was far beyond what could be repaired.
In the she was glad to be without him….But now….
Now she’s once bitten twice shy.
In discussion with a friend…Its guys like these that give us woman baggage….And at his age (the ripe age of 33/34) is beyond incomprehensible.
Now I know that not all guys are the same.
But its guys like these that give what’s left of the GOOD guys out there a bad rap.
I also know that the woman out there can be just as bad as this guy.
So what can stop people from how they carry their baggage?
In my opinion, this quote stands out…
"Everyone you meet comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack.
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