3:49 AM - Love, Sex, Dating and Romance and random thoughts

It's always on this 'witching' hour...That I get all dreamy.


I shouldn't.  But I do.  And if I don't get dreamy.  I'm lost in thought.


I catch myself looking at wedding photo blogs such as


richelledante


glenabog


And fairly recently....The idea of courting....Of being woo'ed.  


In my dating history (so far), I've only known of two men that have courted me.  One of which I fell deeply in love with.  


I am by no means a completely a traditional girl, however, it's taken me a long way to get to this route...


I came across this link Dating Over 40


Granted half my male friends are extremely traditional but I thought to myself...This should apply to all dating standards.  Maybe I've been once burned, twice shy...  But with my experience, and the older I get.  The more I believe that going slow is best.  Getting to know someone is best.
Sex for me was never casual to begin with.....  So why not just keep up with my belief on taking it slow.


I've been on many dates where guys expect casual sex.  Where they leave you guessing.  These have been from guys that "don't believe in the dating game".    How can they not believe in the dating game if they leave you guessing?  I'm sorry but I think that's a game to me. 


Very few males I knew and or dated would pull the "Romance" card unless they knew the girl was deciding on leaving them.  Which well....Wouldn't that be too little, too late?  I think so.  


I know that I've had my fair share of train wrecks...However I seen many men guys in their mid 30s....Sometimes late 50s...Acting like their 20.  Men can and often will be generally selfish...  And I know that no one is perfect.  However, if a man can be self responsible and take responsibility...I think that's something.....Which leads me to this...

“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

Wayne Dyer On the first date....It's all about first experiences.....However how can you get to know them on the first date?  I don't think you can.  You never can unless you pry and pry and pry.....The reason I say this is because I, myself am an introvert.....The leaves of me can sometimes be harder to pry apart than most as I will not enthusiastically give one much of my information unless I choose to.....Which leads back to the whole romance and woo'ing.... I like being romanced and woo'd as I'm sure many woman would.  I also know that guys, tend to bear the heavy price of the courting process.  Society has drilled it down to casualness.  Which can be ok....  If it's ok between the woman and the man...And romance is brought back into the dating process.   "You can't force love, I realized. It's there or it isn't. If it's not there, you've got to be able to admit it. If it is there, you've got to do whatever it takes to protect the ones you love."  — Richelle Mead